Christmas Shopping 101

3b7888a3fc7d670de77d29a8cdcc1614

“It’s the most WONDERFUL time of the year!”

 The time of year when Christmas music is on every single radio station and crazy people are as far as the eye can see. I mean really what is there not to love?

Well you you are an anxious soul like myself you have already dreaded this time of year since November 1st. Not its November 23rd and you are one of two people…

A) You have started shopping or have in mind what you need to buy for the rest of the people on your list.

B) You have not a damn clue where to start and the thought of shopping makes you want to throw up!

Hello folks, person B here! But what I will say I have a few ideas for you lovely folks that are shopping to hopefully make it easier!

Holiday Palettes/Makeup

Every year makeup brands come out with their “holiday” items. This my dear friend is going to save your life. You may even want to put it on your own Christmas list. Ulta and Sephora usually come out with a holiday box. That contains many different shades of eye shadows, blush, usually a lip stick/gloss and liners. Its a one stop shop for the makeup lover in your life!!

07e5d26ea1b3987f2c9556d684cac7f1 28b8f3dbae010776372a06633a3547fb

Also certain brands may come out with boxes with 10 different lip glosses. Buying single lip glosses can get pricey. So having all of them in one box for one price is a steal!! They also have makeup brushes in sets too. If you are a makeup user you know how expensive the brushes get. So all of them in one spot of one price! YASS GIRL!!!!!

58deaf408d55765f4be4617a306fc0d6 f60cf21b20ff52276b024d1bc24c9278

You see there is no down side to this method!

Gift Cards

But its not a heart felt gift!! Okay I don’t know what is not heart felt about this gift. Its money. For anything you want. No returning, no re-gifting, no trying to put on the perfect face to mask the fact that you hate a gift! That person can get what they would like. I’m not seeing a down side. Well except one. Do not buy a gift card for a store you don’t know if the person likes or not. The last thing I want to do is go into a store I don’t like and try to find something to spend the gift card on. Just buy a Visa gift card. Promise the recipient will be more than happy with free money!

d9d35cfb0988d1096676f946bc3f2056

Shop Online

For those of you who do not like the long lines, at times rude people and the hustle and bustle of the giving season, online shopping is the way to go. There was a time where I thought online shopping took the fun out of Christmas shopping. I can honestly tell you, I DO NOT think that now. There is literally nothing in the world that can be more relaxing than finding all of your gifts from the comfort of your couch. Except having them delivered to your front door!!! Seriously the best!

For the MEN in our lives!

Okay so what about the men in your life. To be completely honest I have no easy go to option for that. They say buying for men is easy. I say BULL HOCKEY! Every year I’m stuck trying to think outside of the box and not buy the sports jersey that he already has in E V E R Y color. I also am trying to stick to some sort of budget because let be real, my name is not Mrs. Bill Gates. This mama is ballin’ on a budget! So then where do you start? Well I have two “go to’s” solutions to this problem.

A) Let them pick out a gift that they really want. Then you pick out something you think they would like or need. (ie: new under wear)

B) Have the theory of “you get what you get and you don’t get upset!” and call it a day.

So men, when you think you are easy to buy for. Think again you little shits. I think guys are way worse than any woman.

Wish Lists

The ingenious way to get people what they want. People make a wish list and email it to you! You then pick items you can afford off this list! Seriously, you can’t ever get a bad gift this way!

My mother in law stresses out month before the holidays about what she is going to buy people. This year I brought up this idea and I think for the most part we are going to do gift giving this way. It takes the stress out of everything in my eyes.

For the GUY reading this!!!

So my dear love. Have you already bought a gift? Is it a waffle iron? Or possibly a toaster? Or my personal favorite a new contraption for the mop. Unless otherwise told, RETURN IT. Like yesterday! We appreciate the gesture but we cook and clean all year round and buying us something else to clean up with or around really is not thoughtful. We love ya though!

Well my loves that my Gift Giving 101 for the holiday season! Hope it helps!! As always STAY GORGEOUS!!!

XOXO

Elizabeth

Well It’s been awhile!

OH.MY.GOD! It has literally been f o r e v e r since I posted!! But I promise for good reason. Oh and my favorite time of the year is here!

Okay, so over the past week I have made a few decisions. For starters over the last month or so I have taken the phase “I eat like shit” to whole new levels! I mean like ice cream for breakfast status. Not cute my friends  and my jeans are beginning to hate me. So starting the Monday after Thanksgiving “Operation Lose Your Fat” officially begins!! I have created a meal plan and currently am in the process of writing and will post about it. Ill give you some clues though. It involves beach body workouts and shakeology!!
Next, I am venturing out of my comfort zone with a few projects I will announce December 1st. I’m super excited about it!! Also so for the first time ever my family and I are doing Christmas theme family pictures to create cards for!!! Pray for me!

Lastly, thank you guys so much for all your support and encouragement to go out and do different things! I never imagined that this journey would take me to the places it has and I can’t wait to do so much more!

I know this post isn’t too much and it is super short, but I am working on getting you guys great things! You asked so you shall receive!! Please if you have any suggestions on reviews you want me to do or tutorials please link below or comment!! STAY GORGEOUS!!

XOXO

Elizabeth

4 Things Holding You Back From Living The Life You Love.

So, you want to live the best life you possibly can right? But you don’t know how. Well, have no fear my dear I’m here to help you realize 5 reasons why things may not be going your way. Your job is recognize this, change it and then proceed to kick major ass at life!

1)Fear

9ab640599718172752e8ab8590a360e1

This four letter word can make or break you. If you fear change or you fear of what comes next. You mind as well pack up your bags and find the next train to Sucksville! I’m sorry to be frank but fear is the biggest thing that keeps so many people from doing the things that they love.

So how do you conquer the fear? Face it. It’s that simple. You need to face what you are afraid of, look it in the eyes and say, “Bitch, I got this!” Get the I can do anything attitude. Once you get past the fear of doing something new, finding a new career or what ever it maybe things will fall right into place. Promise!

2)You Compare Yourself To Others

Dr. Seuss once wrote…

d4fb6867a68537c55b375a422e0cfd68

This is 110% true. No one out there in the world is just like you. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Just because someone on your Facebook page looks like they have the perfect life, I can assure you that may not always be the case. In our society we rate ourselves on how much we have, how popular we are and how many people like our pictures on Instagram. Not enough people value themselves they value more what other people have. STOP IT!

If someone you know know has an amazing car, travel all over the world and is living the life you want. Get off your ass and work harder for it! What is comparing your life to their’s going to do. Without a doubt the person that you envy busted their ass and still is busting their ass to become what they are today. They are constantly growing, looking for the next step to out do the one before. Staying up late working while your daydreaming about life. You can not be other people so stop trying to, stop comparing yourself to them. You can only be you, accomplish what YOU go after and be proud of yourself without feeling like you are in constant competition with someone else! After all once you get where your going it will all be worth it!

3)Lack Of Confidence

I have said this so many times but you need to be your biggest fan. Believe in yourself. Know that you are great before you even get to the point where other people know your great! People lack confidence for so many different reason but the most common is they don’t feel worthy. A lot of people think, well that person deserves that. Wait, why? Why do they deserve something and you don’t? What makes them so much better then you? NOTHING! That to me is an excuse. A cop out of actually chasing a dream that may be scary for you.

Have the confidence in yourself to know that you will accomplish everything you need to, want to and thing you haven’t even thought of yet! Don’t let people dictate how you feel about your dreams. Just because they don’t approve doesn’t mean they are right. Have enough confidence to say ” I get you opinion but I’m still trucking through with my plans.” Then use that lack of confidence they have in you, to fuel the confidence you have in yourself. The only person stopping you from achieving your dreams is you!

4)Lack of Motivation

Alrighty, you have decided to go out and chase your dreams down. You start off with a burning desire to take what you believe is your. So you are working as hard as you possibly could to make things happen. It’s a slow process though. Month’s end up going by and you don’t see the fruits of your labor. You are discouraged and put less and less work into reaching your goal. Before you know it your sitting in your ass eating popcorn watching The Kardashian’s live the life you want.

NOTHING in this life is given to you. You need to work your tush off to get what you want in life. And guess what? It won’t be easy! Your going to hit road bumps and have set backs. That’s part of the journey. But if you really want it and are motivated to create a life you love, nothing will stop you. Don’t let anything stop you. Your capable of anything you set your mind too.

I know most of us can relate to one or more the above categories. But it is solely up to you to create the best life. A life worth living. A life you love! You only have one life to live it! As always STAY GORGEOUS!

XOXO

Elizabeth

Monday Morning Mantra, Winner Reveal and My Crazy Weekend!

3addd1bf0260001c168df3050c831a91

Good Morning babes! I hope this posts reaches everyone well!!

My weekend was a bit crazy! It started on Friday as I took a mental health day. Ya know a day where you can relax, do nothing and binge watch Friends while shoving enormous amounts of popcorn in your face! Usually these days, for me at least never go as planned. But this one my friends absolutely did! #mommywin

Until 7pm when I went to go drop off my oldest daughter Gabriella to her father’s about 40 minutes away from me. Now before I get started with this story I am going to tell you one thing. I can not and will not leave any animal on the side of the road, EVER. I have never been that person and this quality has gotten me in some shit over the years. This time is no different!

Anyways, as I am driving down a super busy road there are cars flashing for over a mile. In my head I’m thinking wow there must be a lot of cops or a lot of deer. Well I was wrong, there was a white pit bull who looked hurt on her right side running in and out of traffic. I pull over open my door and she runs over to my car and jumps right in.

Now just a back story. A friend on Facebook needs to place her 2 dogs into a nice home. Well my hand goes up way high as the person to adopt these gorgeous babes! Then I sit my ass right down after my boyfriend tells me no more dogs! (we already have a dog named Bailey!!)

So now what do I do now that I have this dog?? Well panic obviously! I can’t leave her on the road and I can’t take her home. No one I know can take her either so I resort to Facebook for help! No one can help. So the night goes on. Adam is mad at me, my own dog is mad at me, oh yeah then I realize the pit bull who I named Lady for the time she was with us is not spayed. My dog is not spayed, and she is in heat. SHOOT ME IN THE FACE RIGHT NOW!

When it’s time to go to sleep I make a bed for Lady in my room put my Bailey in the kitchen, Adam sleeps on the couch and the girls in their beds. All is well right?? NOPE! At to 2 am I wake up to realize Lady has FLEAS! I again panic and rush her to the tub and proceed to give her a flea bath and take the flea comb to her. Now, before I knew she has fleas Adam had said…

” Liz this dog probably has fleas! You have no idea what she has she needs to be gone!”

And now I have just proven him right. Wonderful. After her bath I look at Facebook and someone claims the dog is theirs! Oh praise the lord! That turns out to be a quick fail but not before I drive to this person at 2 am for them to tell me that Lady is not theirs. The woman was lucky she was still standing.

The next morning the dog warden called me to pick her up and so did a foster home. So I dropped the dog off and went with my best friend, her husband and mother to go see Jersey Boys on Broadway!!!

If you have not seen Jersey Boys, you need to! It is probably in my top 3 shows I have ever seen!! It was a fantastic day of day drinking, site seeing and show watching!! Jersey Boys will be gone as of January 24, 2017 so get your tickets now my friends. I promise you will not be disappointed!

GIVEAWAYS

93066c53095bd77bddc6ddb63eb7b556

CONGRATULATIONS LAURA!!!!!!!!

Thank you everyone!! Don’t forget there is a giveaway every month! I will announce the next giveaway next week. Please do not be discouraged! I have so much more in store!!! The next giveaway will be announced next week.

Monday Mantra

give-up-guilt

 So your carrying around all kinds of guilt? I think everyone does at some point in life. There are so many things throughout the years that I wish I could change. So many things that I feel guilty for to this day. But the fact of the matter is that I can’t change anything now that happened 1,3 or 10 years ago. There is going to be so many times in your life time that you could of gone about things differently. Life is basically a trial and error kind of deal. You live, make mistakes, learn from those mistakes and do better the next time around. Don’t beat yourself up over things. You are human.

As a parent I can tell you, it is the hardest job on the planet. You will make more mistakes then you can ever imagine. Most of the time you will feel like you are failing. I know I do. But in retrospect you aren’t. You are killing the parenting game and being overly hard on yourself. So stop that nonsense. At the end of the day all that matters is that you are a good person, who has good intentions. If things go wrong it’s okay. It’s not the end of the world. Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes its for bigger and better thing to come together. You just gotta have faith!

Hope everyone has a great Monday!  STAY GORGEOUS my loves!

XOXO

Elizabeth

 

Dear Mommy Who Feels Like A Failure

pic-2

So your fully convinced you are fucking up your children beyond compare huh? You were rushing to get your 3 kids and yourself to school, daycare and work on time. It’s snowing outside and you almost left the stove on boiling your eggs. You get out of the house in the nick of time to get to the school kid drop off line and find that your daughter has no winter jacket on. You lose it! Because..

“I TOLD YOU TO GRAB THE WINTER JACKET OF THE COAT RACK! WHY WAS THAT SO HARD!”

Her response is “I’m sorry mommy.” as she walks away towards the front door of her Elementary school. Immediately you feel a complete wave of what the fuck did I just do rush over you. As you pull away you realize you have more then enough time to run home, grab the jacket and bring it to school. So your whole break down, drama bullshit you just pulled on your 6 YEAR OLD was completely unnecessary! I mean really whose the adult here!

Oh wait, that was me less then an hour ago! Now I’m sitting here thinking how much worse of parent I can possibly get. The thing is there is no parenting book with step by step instructions on how to deal with things. There is no perfect parent. I think we all for the most part are figuring it out as we go and hoping for the very best. But regardless you have times where you just feel lost and hopeless.

So your in the same boat as me? Or maybe one day you will be. I’m here to tell you that it will all be okay. You are not a failure. You, my dear are doing the very best you can and that is all anyone can ask of you. Take that moment, where you lost your head and use it as a teaching moment. Show your child that from time to time mommy loses her temper. Explain that you are human and it happens and though its not okay to yell its okay to express your feelings. Apologize to your child when you are in the wrong. You hurt them and realize you are wrong. Show them the strength in an apology. There is no such thing as a super mom. Sorry my friends! If you think you are

Above all else, give yourself a break. Life gets hard you strong mama you. Your dealing the best way you can and making the best of every situation, no matter how messed up it is. Your learning right along side your children, and like them you will have moment of great success and moment of utter failure. But in that failure you will realize you have showed them something much more. You will show them how to pick yourself up and just keep swimming. In turn they will use that knowledge in their own lives as they grow to be resilient, strong and productive adults when the time comes. Your doing great mama! Stay Gorgeous!

(Special thank you to the lovely people I work with. They are the real ones who helped me create this post! You guys are amazing and I love each and every one of you!)

376a834595d498f53b6f07414c4f66f3

XOXO

Elizabeth

 

My Weekend Events,Giveaways and Chit Chat!

Good morning my loves! Hope everyone had a great weekend! My weekend was packed with all kinds of stuff!!

For starters, last week on Tuesday our washing machine broke! For a family of 5, all children under the age of 6 and a boyfriend that is a pest control technician, I can assure you my friends this was the worst thing that could of gone, household appliance wise. Welp, nothing we could have done. We called the landlord and I told myself everyday…

“There is nothing you can do. It will all be fine. Maybe by the grace of God he will send me a fairy god mother to do all the laundry!!”

Needless to say by half time of the Dolphins VS Bills game we had a working washer and a brand new sink faucet! (Our sink also sprung a leak!) I never thought in a million years I would get excited about a faucet but ladies…..

31zrhf1fkhl

….do you see this beauty! I LOVE IT! Crazy how things change once you are forced to adult!

Anyways, I also kept myself busy doing Halloween makeup! If you know me or follow me on any sort of social media, you know that I am a makeup fanatic. I mean I’m all about buying liquid lipsticks for $20.00 because for me, it’s worth it! I figured I would try my hand in doing something makeup related but out of my realm a bit. This is what I came up with.

14717276_10154652354042486_4010523392976375521_n    14671369_10154648987192486_8796058985284331802_n

The first picture is a creepy Fortune Teller and the second is a half skeleton face. For my first time I was super happy with how they came out! I got awesome feedback too along with tons of questions! What I’m thinking about doing is makeup tutorials on YouTube. I will link everything on the blog when I start everything up!

Now for the giveaway. The deadline is coming up faster and faster. October 28th at 12 midnight that will be it ladies. So don’t forget to subscribe!!! The winner will be announced on November 1st. That person will have up until November 4th at midnight to respond to me. If you do no I will be picking someone else. So please look st your emails!

Lastly, don’t forget to go out this week and be the best, most amazing kick ass woman you can possibly be. Prove people wrong, go after your dreams and make shit happen! Be the best person you can possibly be in a world that is lacking kindness and people who care. And as always my loves, STAY GORGEOUS!

XOXO

Elizabeth

3 Reasons Woman Need To Go Vote!

Well my ladies, it is almost time to vote for the new President of the United States of America. Regardless of where you stand in politics, every single woman needs to go out and vote. This post is by no means to sway your decision on who to vote for. It is to inform you of why woman need to vote!

Okay, so why should you head out to the polls this November ladies? I mean the candidates we have are less than tolerable. But either way these are the two gems we have to pick  from. But lets just take in some facts shall we?

As woman there are struggles that men just do not face. For starters pay for men and woman are not even remotely the same. In reality woman are paid thousands of dollars less than men that hold the same jobs and do the same job functions. Fair, eh I don’t think so! We are still fighting this battle and slowly, very slowly winning it. Recently I have seen such an influx is #girlbosses. Woman that are taking charge and steam rolling industries that were previously run by men! YAS GIRLS!!!!

Here are 3 good reasons why you should vote in the election this year.

1) Woman, you are damn lucky.

If you pay the slightest attention to the news, you would know the struggles woman are still facing in different parts of the world. Overseas woman have no rights. No right to go to school, to wear what the choose and definitely no right to vote. Woman are looked at as a possession and not a person with a valid, intelligent opinion on anything. They are forced to wear clothing from head to toe, faces covered (suddenly school uniforms don’t seem so bad!) and it’s unacceptable to talk directly to males in many cases.

You can actually see this first hand in the United States as well. People that have a cultural background of woman not being important bring that mentality with them when they immigrate. I have first hand had to put a man in his place when he completely ignored me when I was speaking to him. Just to speak to my boyfriend behind me. Adam did give him the same answer which made it even worse! 

Though the struggles in the United States regarding woman equality is still something we face, it is nothing compared to what I just spoke of. I mean for God’s sake we have a WOMAN running for President!

2) Thing won’t change unless you make them.

Everyone in the peanut gallery can voice what they think should happen in our country. What they believe would make the land of the free because of the brave a grade A place to live. That doesn’t happen by small talk you have with your friends. You need to go out and do something about it. The Presidential candidates have voiced what they plan on doing to make our country “great again.” But that’s not something they can just do. They need us to back them up.

So what ever way your swing sways, you need to go and support what you believe is the better of the two. Each one has valid points on what our country is lacking. But sitting in your lazy boy recliner yelling at the T V screen will prove nothing come November. You then, if you do not vote have no room to complain about who is elected because you lacked the desire to vote. Sorry Sally tough shit. 

3) It is a right woman fought for.

WOMAN BEFORE US FOUGHT FOR OUR RIGHT TO VOTE! (yes I’m screaming!) Little history lesson. Voting has not always been a right woman held. (*GASP*) I know right! Crazy! But it’s true. Woman during the 1800’s were basically people who birthed children, cooked and cleaned. Opinions on any matter the was considered a male issues, such as politics, woman were not involved. 

A woman named Susan B Anthony was a highly educated woman and a leading figure in the woman’s rights movement. She along with her supporters of woman created American Equal Rights Association in 1866. In 1869, Anthony and another woman, Elizabeth Stanton ended up writing a weekly publication, The Revolution. In this publication it lobbied for woman’s rights. 1869 The Woman’s Suffrage Association was founded.

Anthony was tireless in her efforts to convince other woman to express that they had a right to vote. She even took it as far as voting illegally in 1872 in the presidential election. She was arrested, assaulted by the officers and ended up fighting the charges brought against her. Though her fight ended in a $100.00 fine that she never paid! (Take that Uncle Sam!)

Unfortunately Susan B. Anthony would not see her vision come full circle. In 1906 Anthony passed away at the age of 86. It was not until 14 years later that the 19th amendment  giving adult woman the right to vote was passed.

Moral of the story, get your asses out to vote. For woman before us have put it all on the line for us to be able to vote today. Do not take it for granted. Ever. 

So is that enough to get you to go out in vote? I hope it sure was because there is nothing more important then exercising a right we have earned and should be proud of. You should hold your head high, like the bad as you are and take that right to the polls!!! I’ll see you there!!

Stay Gorgeous!!

XOXO

Elizabeth


Kids, the root of why I’m insane.

Disclaimer: This post will contain high volumes of cursing, kid bashing and over all ranting. If one or any of the previous things above is not okay with you, please exit top right please. (sorry mom!)

20032ca855008f1197eaae76aac87353

SO ladies, I am going to say what all mothers feel but are afraid to say. SOMETIMES our children are assholes!

There I said it! Though it may be frowned upon to say such things, its not illegal so take that! Regardless of how great of a parent you are, sometimes your children just decided to show you how bratty, bitchy and an overall pain in the ass they can truly be. In turn pushing you to limits no mother has been before.

Now now, I know what your thinking…..

“Elizabeth, kids will be kids. You must understand that.”

Well, yeah. But sometimes our kids are complete fucking morons and we cant stand them. I did not say we didn’t love them. There is a difference my critical friend. Let me let you in on a little secret, we all feel this way at one point or another.

549e21dfe121122b2b897ae5ad5f6dfc

For instance, when your child who knows better has a full blown melt down in the middle of the store. People stop and stare at this epic melt down as if you were the one that instigated it. They are also looking at you handle it in a manner they wouldn’t. Because everyone at that moment becomes the perfect parent and is now the kid whisperer. Believe me loves, I have been there and it takes all of me to keep my cool and not go all psycho, crazed lunatic on them. Like bitch you can do a better job?? Well lace up your boots because your about to step in some shit you can’t handle! But you know, that would be completely inappropriate.

643600472c4e884c51f2cfd3cc7b6afc

So why do they do that from time to time? For me, my children have a break down at the busiest times of the day. Like while I’m trying to cook dinner, change a diaper and keeping an eye on the laundry, someone will ask me for a cup of juice. Oh sure ma’am ill be right on that because clearly mommy is not doing a fucking thing over here. Yes just one moment and you will have your juice, oh and a leprechaun riding a unicorn holding a pot of gold and Disney World tickets is also wanted. Sure coming right up!

Get the fuck out of here! Ain’t nobody have time for that. Where’s my glass of Sangria, better yet the bottle. Who needs a cup I’ll drink this shit straight!

But there is no age limit on your kids assholeness. No ma’am there is not. I know damn well at the ago of 18 I had the biggest attitude to rock the household the resided at 265 Foxhill Road. My mother, though she will deny any such thing probably wanted to kill me more times then not. She probably wanted to throw around a few curse words too. But that’s not my mother. She bit her tongue a lot. Well mother I feel the pain I put you through. Well played God, well played!

Through all of the times I feel like my life is ending at the hands of a three year old, there are more good times then bad. So mommy’s if your having a bad day and your child is being an asshole. I can guarantee and hour from now you will forget all about the hell your child just put you through and focus on the great amazing things that you love about them. That’s the roller coaster ride of being a parent. Just when your about to lose your sanity, they show you how much they love you and how great of a parent you truly are! Keep trucking my loves, being a mommy is a hard ass job! You got this!

I hope this made you giggle, please don’t take anything seriously. I mean because I’m not. Or am I?

6a04a696a2a0137703f415c3d81108d7

Stay Gorgeous!

XOXO

Elizabeth

Living with mental illness

f667c0c66140b971d1c5974122124166

This subject falls so close to home. Starting with me. Hi, my name is Elizabeth and I have a mental illness. Looking right at me you would think that I have my shit together. Because frankly at the age of 28 we should all have our shit together, right? Or should we still be in limbo as to what we are going to do with our lives. I mean so many people around me have careers. They have graduated college, they are married with children. In that order. They are living on top of the world and their lives are amazing on every level.

Well here I sit with no college degree, 3 children and unmarried. In that order. My live is worthless. I’m worthless. But buck up sister, put on a smile and show the world how great life really is.

That my loves is the anxious and depressed Elizabeth that surfaces from time to time. No matter how hard I try to control it, I have panic attacks and sometimes they are so bad that I feel like I’m dying. I mean what I think dying would feel like. Some days I struggle to get out of bed and continue my mommy duties. Others I jump right out of bed and embrace the day. I’m on point and no one can dull my sparkle.

Here’s the thing though. Even though I am the one with mental illness, I live with 4 other people that are affected by it. No, none of them have mental illness but all of them live with me which when I am bad is a huge task in itself. Living with people that have mental illness can be super challenging. Sometimes to the point where people leave relationship from lack of understanding. Other times it’s because the person without the mental illness realizes that the person they love have to much baggage. So they run as fast and as far as they possibly can.

Can you blame them? Waking up everyday next to a person that has mood swings or anxiety so bad you don’t know if your going to get Dr.Jeckle or Mr.Hyde. Most times when I’m like that I can’t handle myself, I can’t imagine being someone on the outside not knowing what to do or say to make things better. I’m sure they feel a form of helplessness that turns into depression over time. So instead of feeling that way they leave.

So by now your probably thinking this post is how to help people with mental illness cope. Well you would be wrong my dear. This post is to help people with mental illness, help others in their life without mental illness cope with you. Yep, because even though you have the issue, let be real. You push your issue on to them without knowing or realizing it. I am by no means saying this is your fault or your a bad person. But what everyone need to realize is that people loving other people with mental illness need to know what to do or not to do when your in crisis. If not there isn’t a chance in hell the relationship no matter what kind will survive. Won’t happen, no chance.

The first step is to let that person know, whoever her or she maybe that you have a mental illness. Scary I know. Letting people into your circle not knowing how they will react or better yet how you will react to their reaction. I have done this in all the wrong ways. I have cried and screamed that I am anxious and depressed. Followed up with ” YOU NEVER UNDERSTAND ME!” Well duh genius. You never explained to them what to do to help you. My suggestion is to sit the person down, when you are not depressed or anxious and explain to them what that looks like in you. Let them know how you feel when your like this and what you do.

Personally, I cry. Over every. little. thing. I mean I could spill my glass of milk and I’m grabbing a life preserver to survive the flood of tears. Seriously guys, it’s that intense. So many people react different ways. From getting visibly upset to becoming an introvert and not wanting to talk to anyone at all. Voice all of it. Because if you are usually a happy go lucky person and all of a sudden your acting like someone stole your cookie, people need to know it’s not them its you. I mean unless it is them. If that’s the case…..TELL THEM! You are saving no one if you don’t voice your feelings. Weather it be in the moment or later after the moment has gone. Either way do it.

So now they know you have a mental illness and what you look like when your having an off day. The next step is to tell them how to help you or what not to do when you are having a tough time. Some people panic and want to cuddle you to calm you down. With me that is exactly what I need. I need the reassurance that everything will be fine and hugs and snuggles does that. But there are other people that do not under any circumstances what to be touched. They need to be left alone to work through it themselves. Both ways are perfectly fine coping skills.

I am a loving person and I like to show that. Many people are. So if you need time to yourself without touching I personally need to know that or I automatically think I did something wrong. I have known people who thought their significant other was cheating because all of a sudden they don’t want them to touch them. Which causes a whole set of new issues. I mean in some cases that was the problem but usually its not.

Lastly, understand that you have a mental illness. This is not your fault but it is something you need to deal with. That means seeking help if needed, take medication if you chose. Don’t let others let you feel less than because you struggle from time to time. You are not crazy. You are coping with shit other would drown under if the seats were reversed. But you are stronger than the mental illness, you can rise above and prove you are amazing everyday of the week. Never forget how important you truly are. Let no one dull that sparkle. And along the way teach others what they may not know about mental illness to make it less taboo. Don’t let it define you, for you are far better then a textbook diagnosis.

235249c29e15d3d70d1cb36e91d1b7c8

Stay Gorgeous!!

XOXO

Elizabeth

SLAY GIRL SLAY!

a7ddc76ee707249bf293231779a1330e

Well I really had no intention to write another post tonight. Mostly because the NY Giants are playing right now! But I have to share this!!

Tonight I met with a woman that is nothing short of amazing. From the moment I entered the room you could  feel her vibes and how strong she felt about her mission to empower other woman. It was amazing to sit in a room with her and be able to collaborate with someone like her. (details will be coming very soon!)I’m quite blessed I must say!!

 After I got home all I could think was it’s amazing the things woman can do when they have the right motivation. Or sometimes even the wrong person in your life could fuel the most powerful fire inside of you. Be fucking amazing ladies, slay every damn day. Don’t base your life off of an image created for you. Create your own image even if its not ideal. Make a life that you are proud of! Make the courageous decision to chase your dream. NO, to create your path. 

What’s the difference between a dream and a path? I’ll tell you. A dream is a thought, a hope that one day you will achieve your goal. A path is the road you are creating. You are working towards a better you instead of just thinking it up. Instead of wanting something, you are achieving it. Maybe not all at once but slowly. Rome wasn’t built in a day, but they worked everyday on it! So show this world what you are made of!

 I’m raising 3 little girls to be the best, strongest, independent girls to walk the planet. But to be honest, it’s not just me instilling this in them. Their own father is raising them right along side me with the same goal in mind. Their father was raised in a home full of boys and now is raising girls with really no idea how girls work. But what he does know is that his girls will kick ass in life, he will not sell them short in anything they do in life. Find a man like this. A man that raises up his daughters, pushes them to be their very best and doesn’t let them believe that they can’t accomplish something just because they are girls.

Don’t doubt your abilities to kick ass. Everyone starts from somewhere so don’t start thinking you can’t do something just because you don’t have the skills. Create the skills. Learn as you go. Teach yourself. Don’t be afraid to ask for help! When I started this blog I was so afraid that no one would help me when I had questions. I’m involved in Facebook groups and to my surprise the all woman’s Facebook page gave me the most love and advice to be successful. Not all woman want you to fail and are catty. Many of them want you to shine and succeed. If you can’t find that kind of woman, BE THAT KIND OF WOMAN!

8058330c08ac5b49c76b2044588ed364

I’m so happy I wrote this and I really hope I inspire you to be amazing, strong, confident woman!!! Goodnight dolls!!! STAY GORGEOUS!!!

XOXO

Elizabeth