Have you ever scrolled through your social media or spoke to someone at work and thought,
“Damn who spits in your coffee EVERY. SINGLE. MORNING?”
Like really, what is happening in your life that is making you act like a complete ass. Over the years I have come up with two main reasons.
1)Sometimes its because people create their own storms and cry when it rains.
2)Sometimes its because life is just really hard. Maybe you have hit a point in your life that you feel you can’t escape. Like a bad relationship, money issues or issues at work. I get it, everyday isn’t a big ball of sunshine.
But I’m hoping the advice I’m going to give will put you in the frame of mind that you can clear the clouds and let the sunshine back in again.
First of all lets talk about people around you. People believe it or not can make you feel some type of way. We tend to feed off the energy that people put out into the universe good and bad. So if you are having issues with your boyfriend/ significant other, and you start talking to a person that is chronically single, what type of vibes do you think are going to be radiating off of her or him. I would put money on the conversation would go something have these key points….
“Leave that piece of shit.”
“You deserve better.”
“He/she is such an asshole!”
Which in turn probably makes you lean towards,
“You know your right. He is an asshole!”
Can someone tells me what that solved? Did you talk to your significant other about the issues? Did you think that maybe they are having a bad day? Possibly the person didn’t realize they hurt you and now your talking to Susie the chronically single who is making you rethink your relationship. Is it possible that the only thing your significant other did was leave the toilet seat up on accident with no malicious intent?. Now you run home and yell everything Susie stuffed in your head hours before and you look like a psychopath.
So number 1 evaluate who you speak to, hangout with or call friends. Maybe you need to clean up your circle of friends and get rid of the people who bring all kinds of negativity to your life. There is no space for negativity in your life, especially if your trying to be a happier person! So bye Felicia!
Second, be thankful for everything in your life. I wake up every morning thankful for another breath, my children, my boyfriend, my home, everything I have. I know it sounds so cliche, but there are people out there that are thankful for less than what you have. If you wake up every morning and think,
“Oh man, my life sucks. My car is a piece of shit, my job sucks, LIFE CAN’T GET ANY WORSE….”
So on and so forth, I can guarantee that something will go wrong. It doesn’t even need to be something your stressing about. I have been in places in my life where I was so unhappy. I hated life, I hated my car because it was falling apart, I hated coming home because the bills weren’t paid. I was just completely miserable. Then all of a sudden my hot water heater blows! It’s Karma, it feels all the negative energy you put out and basically excepts the challenge that your life can’t get any worse and BAM, you sneeze on your way to work and pee your pants! ( if you have kids you know what i mean!) Instead of waking up in the morning and being negative try,
” Today is going to be a good day. I’m thankful for all I have and I’m going out into the world being thankful for every breath I take.”
Try it and let me know how you feel in a month!!!
Three, be your biggest fan! Before starting my blog I was in such a funk. People would ask what I did for fun. When I couldn’t come up with something fast enough, the next response would be…
“Oh your a mom. that makes sense now.”
What the hell was that supposed to mean? Yes, I am a mommy to three beautiful girls but I’m so much more. I’m damn good at doing makeup, a fashion fanatic, a person who loves to cook, I would do anything for anyone I love. I am Elizabeth Ortiz, the girl who has overcome so much bullshit, a trooper and a fighter!!
Ultimately I knew I wanted to do a blog but at the time, but I was so reluctant to start one because A) the first one I started was a hot mess and B) I had no self-confidence that I could produce something that anyone would want to read. “I’m a 28 year old mother of 3 little girls, who doesn’t own a home, isn’t married and lives paycheck to paycheck. Who on Gods green earth would ever want to read anything I have to write?” Just like that folks I put the blog thing on hold and wallowed in my sorrow. Self doubt is a powerful thing.
It took me a year to get back on the horse. To get confident enough to say ” Girl, you go this, you have so much to bring to the table. SO many stories of success and failure that you could share and help people through tough times. What the hell do you have to lose?” Not a damn thing. I don’t have a damn thing to lose and everything to gain from my blog.
For about a month before I started my blog, I started to tell myself things like ” Your amazing, you can do anything you set your mind to. GO out there and kill it girl! You can and you will make a successful blog and help others along the way!” I lived it, I breathed it and I BELIEVED it! You need to believe that YOU can do whatever it is that you set your mind too. You need to pump yourself up everyday, live everyday like its Friday! Believe in yourself, don’t falter under tough situations. If you fall pick yourself back up and move forward. If you need to cry, DO IT! Crying is not a sign of weakness to me. To me its all the stress leaving you body. When your done you start over. Its really all about how you look at yourself. If you respect and believe in yourself so will people around you!
This song right here, you need to download to your phone. Make a play list of kick ass songs that pump you up that give you confidence. Make this song the first one on your play list. Life has no rules. Take the road less traveled. It often leads to beautiful places!
Please if you ever feel helpless don’t. Your not. But only you can make a change in your life. You need to lace up your boots and truck through the shit to get to the best days of your life. But how do you stop thinking that way? CHANGE SOMETHING! Your house makes you stress because of the clutter? Clean It. Your room has been the same way for 15 years? Change it!
Yesterday morning I ran across the street to the local bakery/Deli to get breakfast before work. Now I work in the not so scenic part of town and the people look like the walking dead more times than not. But this morning I looked around at all the old buildings fascinated that years ago it had rich people walking the halls. Looked at the trees and embraced the color change.Stared at the crystal blue sky and thought “Today’s going to be a good day!” and so it was.
You have control of yourself and that is the most important part to a happier you. I hope this was helpful to everyone and changes the way you look at yourself and your life.